I’ve always been more apt to talk about sex in a joke than talk about it for real, and that goes double for talking with my parents. I’m not sure at what point it seemed OK and not incredibly embarrassing to even joke about it. Sometimes it’s still embarrassing now. My wife likes to recall that when she first met my Dad, they were watching TV and a Viagra commercial came on. She felt a little awkward to start with, but when the ad’s narrator warned, “See your doctor if the erection lasts longer than 4 hours,” and my Dad said something like, “Why would someone want an erection for 4 hours?” Amy had no answer but to wonder desperately why I wasn’t in the room and why I was taking so long.
Now that I’m writing this, Amy reminds me of an even better one. When Amy and I were first dating, I lived in a loft apartment with a simple futon mattress on the floor. When we moved in together, we ditched the futon mattress and used Amy’s tiny creaky iron bed. One day, my Dad and Amy were talking, and my Dad wanted to know, “How’d you get him into a bed?” Amy was speechless as usual. “No, no!” said my Dad. “I know how…oh, never mind!”
It’s twice as bad with my kids as with my parents, though. It is just not a topic that I can casually joke about at this point, though our teen daughters are 16 now, so I try to steer clear of it.
But when our family was together one night playing a word game, including Amy and me and my parents and my daughter T, I got ambitious and decided to try and tell a joke to my daughter. My Mom had previously emailed the joke to Amy, and they were talking about how funny it was, so I thought it would be pretty harmless to try and relate it to T, since I could imagine her liking the punchline a lot. “You really want to tell that joke?” Amy asked. “It’s not really dirty or anything,” I reasoned. Amy was skeptical, “It’s a little dirty.” I honestly somehow forgot that most of the joke was about sex until I started telling it. The following is my censored, butchered version.
“So these three women are sitting around talking about their men and their love lives and whether they’re happy with them, and they decide to…uh…spice things up, you know.”
“One is dating, one is having an affair, and one is married. They all agree to wear…uh…a black…sexy outfit…and…shoes…and then meet back and discuss how it went.”
“They meet back and ask the one who’s dating how it went.”
“‘Great,’ she says, “I put on…that outfit…and we…had a really great time…uh…all night.”’
“Then they ask the one who’s having an affair how it went.”
“‘Well, I wore that outfit underneath a…uh…coat…and I surprised him at his office and we uh…did it there and…it was great.'”
There is mercifully only one part left to the joke, and I am relieved the end is in sight.
“So then they ask the one who’s married. She says, ‘I got all dressed up just like we said, in a black mask and, you know, um, bra and heels, to greet him at the door when he came home from work, and he came in and saw me.'”
“‘Yeah? What did he do then?’ they asked her.”
“‘He just said, “What’s for dinner, Zorro?'”
See, all I remembered was the punchline, and look what I had to go through to get to it.
“I know you’ve heard way worse than that, T,” I told her.
“Yeah, you’re really overprotective.”
“I’m protecting me! You know how embarrassing that was! God!”